One of the worst things someone can do to you in a raid environment is tell you you’re not good enough in something that you know you’re good at, and everyone else knows you’re good at. I just wish people would have the balls to say it to my face, rather than in a backhanded, backbiting manner. If you think I’m not good enough (or our raid team is not good enough) to handle a particular job, you should be saying that flat out, not trying to change what our other members are doing (i.e., going from a DPS build to a DPS/healing hybrid that’s primarily for AE healing when we need single-target heals), as if that will somehow magically solve the issue. Yes, it can help, but that’s not the only thing going on.
I don’t care how long you might have been a healer in other games, if you’re not healing in our raids normally, you have no clue how we perceive the damage patterns as people who are healing in our raids. Sure, you can look at the logs, and see exactly how much damage was taken when and by whom, but that isn’t the be-all, end-all. In an encounter where we can all but tunnel vision because the encounter mechanics allow it, we’re going to have a much higher sense of what’s going on than someone who is tanking and watching for adds and various other things going on in the encounter.
Now, I know I should be appreciative of the fact that someone else is looking for things and making suggestions. But that doesn’t stop me from thinking that they’re the wrong suggestions. No matter how well-meaning they may be, that doesn’t stop them from feeling like “you’re not doing it right.” As it stands, for the encounter in question, we have enough healers – possibly more than enough – given our level of skill. We don’t need more healers, we need to adjust our strategy. In the end, that is what’s going to kill the boss, especially when there’s already a tight DPS requirement that even I’m not sure we’re meeting.
On that note, if you have something of critique to say about me, suck it up, grow a set and tell me flat out. Don’t go behind my back to make me feel inadequate or not good enough. It’s pretty fucking clear to me that you aren’t going to be able to deal with it yourself, either, so you can sit down and shut the fuck up otherwise. /nerdrage.